Months ago I wrote about how the cruelty of the world
terrifies me—how greed wins out over kindness with alarming frequency, how
people villainize one another to avoid addressing our problems ourselves, and
how this in turn creates harmful rifts within society. I still fear that all progress is
superficial, and that the core problems remain unchanged. Instead of racial rifts, we villainize the
police. Instead of taking real efforts
to heal economic disparity, we villainize Walmart. We hide under the blanket of these illusions of Big Bads,
convinced that the problem is somewhere else in the world, somewhere out there,
not among us, not within us, and not to be solved by us.
One of my friends recently echoed my sentiments when he told of how, when delivering food, his customer overpaid. He returned the excess money without hesitation, but his coworkers celebrated the act as an anomalous kindness, noting that they themselves would probably not do likewise. Although trivial when considered as an individual act, it's the compounding of the many of these acts—right or wrong—that occur throughout the day and throughout the world from which greater goods and evils arise. Moreover, it's the failure to perceive the humanity of the person that is wronged which echoes through all evils.
Often people read or hear my words and end up asking, “what,
then, should I do?” People are looking
for a simple “To do” list or Ten Commandments to check off progress in their free time and feel
good about themselves. There is a simple
answer, but it’s necessarily ongoing, unceasing. There is no one thing—or even a list of
things—we can get over with and call the world saved. Sure, there is a list of what needs done:
education reform to focus on utilization of information instead of retention,
economic reform to oppose the ever-growing economic disparity, social equality
regardless of race, sex, orientation, or religion, environmental reform to ensure
our survival, and this list is just the beginning.
Yet the simple answer that all this stems from is this:
love. Love unquestioningly. Love unceasingly. Love those you might not think deserve it. Love in action, not only in word. Keep striving to love more. It sounds too simple, but the problems in
society are easily traced to just as simple of causes. Economic disparity arises from simple greed, but
if we distributed wealth to facilitate cooperation and community instead of
competitively hoarding it, we would not only see the decrease in poverty, but
we would in turn facilitate technological and cultural progress. Similarly, social inequality arises from
these rifts we create by villainizing each side, combating each other instead
of banding together to overcome ignorance and misunderstanding. Yet efforts through love to create universal
community would in turn create universal equality. If it seems too simple, then reference how, as I pointed out before, just as it only takes the combined spark of a multitude of tiny ice
crystals to conjure a lightning storm, change can come from something simple if
there’s enough of it.
A number of years ago, prompted by my tendency to describe love as a series of neurochemical imbalances, a friend asked me to actually define love, in a broad, platonic sense, without resorting to snark. I failed to immediately come up with an answer, but eventually I concluded that love at its purest is selflessness—putting someone else before oneself. Although I haven’t changed my definition, I have expanded upon it. As I’ve realized that selflessness gives rise to emergent patterns, creating communities capable of so much more than disjointed collections of individuals, love becomes more than an interaction between two people, or one person’s consideration of another. Love finds a curious life unto itself in the same way the complexity of our consciousness rises from the interaction of neurons which seem completely unrelated yet nevertheless underlie its mechanisms. Love becomes about not just a couple separate individuals, but something that grows beyond them while simultaneously improving them with it.
So, go forth and love. Help others to love. Maybe enough of us can come together to conjure a storm and make a difference.
A number of years ago, prompted by my tendency to describe love as a series of neurochemical imbalances, a friend asked me to actually define love, in a broad, platonic sense, without resorting to snark. I failed to immediately come up with an answer, but eventually I concluded that love at its purest is selflessness—putting someone else before oneself. Although I haven’t changed my definition, I have expanded upon it. As I’ve realized that selflessness gives rise to emergent patterns, creating communities capable of so much more than disjointed collections of individuals, love becomes more than an interaction between two people, or one person’s consideration of another. Love finds a curious life unto itself in the same way the complexity of our consciousness rises from the interaction of neurons which seem completely unrelated yet nevertheless underlie its mechanisms. Love becomes about not just a couple separate individuals, but something that grows beyond them while simultaneously improving them with it.
So, go forth and love. Help others to love. Maybe enough of us can come together to conjure a storm and make a difference.
Mostly the folks who want to save the world, are those that have not.
ReplyDeleteLove & Hate are in a neck-ta-neck race to see which can kill the most innocent people,
e.g., "I LOVE my country/religion/whatever sooooooooo 'Those' people must die!"
Love isn't the answer.
What IS the answer to "Why?"
The answer is......
there is no WHY.
I still do Love, but.....I apologize for it.
FondDaMax (Fond To The Maximum) is superior BUT...it ain't never, ever, never gonna catch-on.
Take care.